see also: the unsung heroes of mother’s day
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The unsung heroes of father’s day
Dear dads and male role models,
I wanted to write something different for you.
To all the dads who get pissed when someone calls it “babysitting” when he supervises his own child.
And the ones who changed just as many diapers as the moms, if not more.
To the fathers who realize that, in the eyes of your sons and daughters, manhood wears your face, and you make sure that you put your best face forward.
To the men raising children abandoned by other men.
And the ones fighting for more custody, paying child support, and indulging all manner of hell and parental alienation in high-conflict divorces, but still hang in there.
And the young bucks who don’t have kids of their own who work in day cares and schools, after-school and sports programs, and give a non-creepy model of maleness.
To the boys young and old who love and protect animals, and try to make the world a better place for living things.
To that older guy in college who dumped me because our relationship interfered with raising his eight-year-old daughter, and the guy in my early 30s who dumped me because he didn’t want more kids.
And most especially, to the guy who already had a kid, who married me and had another.
And to the guys teaching their girls to code. And build things. And read. And write. And dream.
And create. And think. And question. And look at the stars….
And the men who are coaches, that nurture the dad-less and the ignored.
And the non cis-gender fathers who don’t identify as men, but still identify as dads.
To the ones who actually listen, and don’t just say “uh huh.”
To the ones that sincerely answer every “why” question.
To the ones that can handle being the bad guy when needed, cry when necessary, and hug often.
To the ones that make it ok for their boys to cry, and for their girls to shout.
To the ones who throw love at the problem before money.
This is for you. May you be surrounded with love and praise, admiration and support, affection and growth. Happy Father’s Day.